You are wired to connect and attach to others. The fact remains that in order to get on in business you will need to get on with people!
Recommend material for RelationshipsHaving good relationships with our colleagues at work is crucial to our wellbeing. Here are 13 simple tips that can help you be a better co-worker.
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What do ‘reduced stress, better heart health, lowered anxiety and pain perception and higher overall happiness’ have in common? They are all correlated to your ability to ask for forgiveness – this engaging video explains why.
Watch VideoCritical people make rude comments, judge our decisions, talk at length about what we’re doing wrong or rarely have anything nice to say. One way to deal with them is to stop being with them altogether.
But this isn’t easy to do when the critical person is your boss, colleague, family member or your partner’s father. In other words, you can’t just stop seeing them for the rest of your life. And in some cases you might have to interact with them on a daily basis.
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Steven J. Stein
Authors Steven J. Stein and Howard E. Book show you how the dynamic of emotional intelligence works. By understanding EQ, you can build more meaningful relationships, boost your confidence and optimism, and respond to challenges with enthusiasm–all of which are essential ingredients of success.
The EQ Edge offers fascinating–and sometimes surprising–insights into what it takes to be a top law–enforcement officer, lawyer, school principal, student, doctor, dentist or CEO. You will learn what the top EQ factors are across many different kinds of jobs, from business managers and customer service representatives to HR professionals and public servants.
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Gill Hasson
Whether it’s a manager who keeps moving the goal posts, an uncooperative colleague, negative friend, or critical family member, some people are just plain hard to get along with.
Often, your immediate response is to shrink or sulk, become defensive or attack. But there are smarter moves to make when dealing with difficult people. This book explains how to cope with a range of situations with difficult people and to focus on what you can change.
Available From AmazonThe SCARF® Model assesses the differences in people’s social motivation. Some people are more sensitive to status-threat and rewards, others to certainty and relatedness. Having SCARF needs satisfied drives engagement and retention. This is a link to the NLI SCARF assessment.
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Peter Storr
If you want to know more about the psychology that underpins a lot of management theory, this is an excellent read.
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David Smith
A readable and in places quite provocative look at what it takes to build a winning culture. Useful to think about alongside leadership style and personality.
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Bill George
A readable treatise on what it is to be an authentic leader. Authenticity is a much used term and it can be hard to define.
Available From AmazonThis workbook gives managers a chance to understand their own managerial style, reflect on whether it suits the situations they face, and make appropriate changes. It’s not a full psychometrics but it’s a great place to start.
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Jon Ronson
An amusing tale about the most antisocial people that you are likely to meet. There’s just as much chance of you meeting them in business too!
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David Kantor
In this innovative book, renowned psychologist David Kantor applies his research and theory of structural dynamics to the workplace to show how individual leaders and coaches can develop their own skills in understanding group dynamics and apply this understanding to improve organisational communication and performance.
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Diana McLain Smith
A systematic look at how relationships determine the success of leaders and their enterprises, along with tools to help strengthen and change them.
Available From AmazonA wealth of resources on continuous partial attention and its impact on our physical and psychological wellbeing.
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A light-hearted look at the challenges of conference calls.
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A video from the late Virginia Satir about the importance of being emotionally congruent to building and maintaining healthy relationships.
Watch VideoA website about the use of statements which include emotions and personal needs. Brief article, which seems quite helpful.
Visit The SiteA reasonably light article written by a clinical psychologist about attachment styles in adulthood, and how they impact upon relationships. It’s mainly aimed at personal, particularly intimate relationships, but is nonetheless easy to read and quite relevant to this tip potentially.
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Sheila Keegan
This book shows how fear manifests itself in large organisations, how it impacts on the workforce and how by reducing our willingness to take risks and to innovate, it can inhibit economic growth and innovation, at both an individual and corporate level. The book contains several quotes from Chris Welford.
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Video from YouTube with Jon Allen (Professor of Psychiatry at Baylor College of Medicine), discussing the basics of attachment theory and how it is linked to mental health
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A moving little video that shows just how important attunement and attachment are in relationships.
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Keep finding yourself in a familiar and problematic pattern? Have a look at this.
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Barbara Jo Brothers
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Helen McGrath & Hazel Edwards
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Paul Babiak & Robert D. Hare
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American Psychiatric Association
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John Bowlby
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Miller R William & Stephen Rollnick
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David Rock
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Ian Stewart & Vann Joines
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